Funny how I think I sorta know your emotional workings towards relationships. You're the type to see the good things in your past relationships and build on that. I see those often as fraudulent moments of opportunity. DAMN, I voted for Change but can't see change for myself lol
Hmmm…!! Lol. Well, each action, moment, and situation should always be accompanied with a lesson learned. Good or bad. Life is all about trial or error….& pushing yourself as far as possible, maximizing all potential!
So thats the place you're in? I'm definitely a 1 strike type of guy. One thing I can't stand is the betrayal, dishonesty and deceit. No matter the amount of love. People tell me I don't love for real because it's so easy to walk away. I know YOU KNOW your value. Lacking any consideration of communicating, compromise or compassion fucks with me, regardless of how aesthetically pleasing one may be. smh. Sorry, I'll never entertain the idea of anything less than SPACE from anyone that crosses me.
I will stay in a relationship "working things out" only because its buying time to lose all feelings. lol I'm committed to emotional stability, but not at the cost of building a new bridge to have then walk OVER me again. . . feel like I'm venting. Do you ever feel like although people tell you how attractive and smart you are, they still don't love you for who you really are. My favorite line toward the end of it all. . ."You only feel in love with the idea of me." That 80/20 rule is a bitch.
I agree completely…& yes, I feel that way pretty frequently.
Situation: You meet Mr. Perfect or Purfek (lol) and he lives a nice professional life. He makes you smile, laugh; you enjoy his company. Do you move forward and allow a relationship to flourish although, secret and lacks all possibility of ever being "public?" I mean its so "between the two" of you that your friends may never meet him, would you, could you, ever? :: sigh:: p.s. Sexually not into anal. Neither receiving nor giving, but openminded <--- This is your Mr. Anonymous, sorta. Now what??
I wouldn’t mind the private relationship. Publicity is not required and does not determine the exclusivity of my relationships. Sex is also not mandatory. Not saying that there may not come a time when it will be relevant, but it’s not a substantial component when initially getting to know someone.
It truly varies. Sometimes once or twice a day, sometimes 3-4 times per week, sometimes once per week, and others every once in a while. Just depends on my hormones and the accessibility/availability to do so.